My Dearest Daughter,
I hope this letter reaches you in a moment of understanding and connection. It has taken me some time to process your decision and gather my thoughts. I want you to know that I love you deeply, and that love has always been a guiding force in my life.
Reflecting on my own upbringing in a large family with an alcoholic and abusive father, I left home at the age of 16, desperately seeking solace and escape. I married at 18, not out of love, but as a means to distance myself from the painful environment I grew up in. I wanted to create a life that was different from the one I knew.
It pains me to think that my history might have inadvertently influenced the dynamics within our family. I have always tried my best to provide a stable and supportive environment, but I now understand that there may have been unintended consequences. I carry the weight of the past and recognize the impact it has had on our relationship.
Your decision to distance yourself has prompted me to confront my own traumas and acknowledge that healing is necessary for both of us. I am no stranger to the emotional scars left by a tumultuous upbringing. Leaving home at such a young age allowed me to escape the immediate turmoil, but the emotional wounds have lingered, affecting my own ability to navigate the complexities of motherhood.
I want you to understand that my actions have never been meant to burden you with the pain I experienced. If, in any way, my expectations or desires have caused you distress, I am truly sorry. It was never my intention for you to feel the weight of my past or carry the responsibility of caretaking my emotions.
Your desire for space and independence has prompted me to reflect on my own journey of self-discovery. I am committed to addressing the traumas of my childhood and working towards healing for the sake of our relationship and our individual well-being.
This is not an easy process, and I acknowledge that there is much work to be done. I am ready to face these challenges and embark on a journey of self-discovery alongside you but separately. I hope that, in time, we can rebuild our connection on a foundation of mutual understanding, forgiveness, and love.
Take the time you need. I am here whenever you feel ready to engage in open and honest communication. You and our relationship are precious to me, and my hope is that, through this process, we can create a stronger, healthier bond that withstands the tests of time.
With all my love,
Mom
