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Sept. 11, 2024

Will They Reap What They Sow? Do We Really Want Our Children to Suffer as We Have?

In the wake of estrangement, it's not uncommon for parents to feel a deep, almost visceral longing for their adult children to experience the same pain they are enduring. This idea is often encapsulated in the phrase, "Will they reap what they sow?"…

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Sept. 4, 2024

When ‘Choice’ Isn’t Really a Choice: Understanding the Nuances of Estrangement Decisions

In the world of estrangement between parents and adult children, the word “choice” often takes center stage. Parents might feel their child chose to go no contact, leaving them blindsided and heartbroken. On the other hand, adult childre…

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Sept. 2, 2024

3-Part Series: Understanding and Addressing Favoritism in Estranged Families, part III

How Parents Can Change the Dynamic of Favoritism and Promote Healing Having explored the emotional and relational damage caused by favoritism, the question becomes: What can parents do to change this dynamic? Healing from favoritism requires awaren…

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Sept. 1, 2024

3-Part Series: Understanding and Addressing Favoritism in Estranged Families, part II

The Lifelong Effects of Favoritism on Children and Sibling Relationships Favoritism in families is not just a childhood experience; its effects can last well into adulthood, shaping the way adult children view themselves, their parents, and their s…

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Aug. 28, 2024

3-Part Series: Understanding and Addressing Favoritism in Estranged Families, part I

The Emotional Toll of Favoritism on Estranged Adult Children Favoritism in families is an often-underestimated source of emotional pain and damage, particularly when there is estrangement between a parent and one of their adult children. When paren…

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Aug. 21, 2024

How Can My Estranged Adult Child Be So Heartless?

How Can My Estranged Adult Child Be So Heartless? When a child goes no-contact or drastically limits communication, it’s one of the most painful experiences a parent can face. You might feel rejected, abandoned, and deeply confused. How could…

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Aug. 14, 2024

When We Side With Their Ex

    Family dynamics can be incredibly complex, and one of the most challenging situations arises when parents find themselves in the middle of their adult child's breakup or divorce. The temptation to maintain a relationship with an ex-d…

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Aug. 7, 2024

No Strings Attached: "I Hear You" – What Adult Children Want from Their Parents

  As parents, we often strive to provide our children with everything they need to succeed and be happy. We offer support, guidance, and love, sometimes in the form of financial assistance or other tangible benefits. However, when these ge…

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July 31, 2024

The Dangers of Chasing After Our Estranged Adult Children

  Estrangement from an adult child is one of the most painful experiences a parent can endure. The instinct to chase after them, to bridge the gap and mend the relationship as quickly as possible, is powerful. However, this approach often back…

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July 10, 2024

The Myth of Quick & Easy: Rebuilding Trust in Estranged Relationships

  In a world that often promises quick fixes and easy solutions, the concept of rebuilding trust in estranged relationships stands in stark contrast. Trust is the cornerstone of any meaningful relationship, and when it is broken, the path …

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