Hi there - I'm Kreed.
Estrangement & reconciliation coach, mediator, educator, podcaster and a flawed human being who eats, sleeps, and breathes this work.
Kreed Revere CMC, CFEC
I want to tell you something before I tell you anything else about my credentials or my platform or my years of experience.
I didn't choose this work.
This work chose me - loudly, inconveniently, and at a moment when I was standing in the middle of my own wreckage, screaming up at the sky:
"TELL ME WHAT TO DO. WHY AM I HERE GOING THROUGH ALL OF THIS? WHAT THE HELL PURPOSE IS THIS?"
And what came back - quietly, clearly, completely unwelcome - was:
"Help others. They need to know how to find their way out of the dark."
My response?
"ANYTHING BUT THAT."
I laugh about that now. Because of course I said that. Because the path forward is almost never the one we would have chosen for ourselves. And because what I've learned - from my own life and from nearly a decade of walking alongside hundreds of mothers and adult children - is that the most powerful guides are the ones who have actually walked the terrain they're leading others through.
I have walked this terrain. More than once. From more than one direction.
THE LIVED EXPERIENCE
I have been an estranged mother. I know what it is to scan your phone at 2am for a message that doesn't come. To feel the particular grief of losing someone who is still alive. To try everything - the letters, the apologies, the waiting - and feel the silence continue anyway.
I have also been an estranged adult daughter. I know what it costs to make that decision. I know the relief and the guilt that come together, tangled up in ways that are hard to explain to anyone who hasn't lived it.
And I have reconciled. In both directions.
Not because someone gave me the right script. Not because I waited long enough or apologized enough. But because I did the interior work - the kind that nobody else was talking about, the kind that required me to turn the finger around and get genuinely, uncomfortably curious about my own story.
That lived experience - on both sides, reconciled in both directions - is not a bullet point on my bio. It is the foundation of everything I do.
I practice what I preach. I am still walking this path. And I will never pretend otherwise.
THE WORK
I have been doing estrangement-specific coaching work for five years.
In that time I have watched something happen again and again that never gets old - the moment a person begins to feel lighter. When something that has been locked tight inside them starts to move. When the gold AHA moment arrives and their whole face changes. When they show up to our next session just a little bit brighter than the last.
That is not reconciliation. Sometimes it leads there. Sometimes it doesn't. But that shift - that internal movement from stuck to something - that is what I am here for. And I take that responsibility seriously. More seriously than most people in this space will tell you.
WHO I AM WHEN I'M NOT WORKING
I live in Florida, where I am currently caring for my aging parents - which, given the nature of my work, is its own ongoing education in showing up differently in complicated family relationships.
I am a certified greyhound lover. Deeply and without apology.
And someone once said to me: "Your face lights up when you hold a baby. It's as if it transforms who you are." I've thought about that a lot. Because I think what they were seeing was my response to innocence to a human being who hasn't yet been hardened by the complexity of life, who hasn't yet learned to protect themselves from pain by closing off. Who is still wide open.
That's what I believe is possible for the people I work with. Not a return to naivety. But a return to something softer and more open than where they currently are. A kind of freedom that most of them have stopped believing is available to them.
It is. I've seen it happen too many times to doubt it.
MY APPROACH
Curiosity. Compassion. And the willingness to tell the truth even when the truth is uncomfortable.
I work from a trauma-informed lens - not because estrangement is always the result of dramatic trauma, but because so much of what drives relational rupture lives in the small, quiet, unexamined wounds that most of us carry from long before the estrangement ever happened.
I am not on anyone's side. I am on the side of the relationship - and on the side of the human being sitting across from me who is trying to find their way through something that has brought them to their knees.
IMPORTANT TO NOTE
Every month I work with a licensed therapist - not as a client, but in professional consultation. To make sure I am not crossing the line into therapy. To maintain the integrity and ethics of the coaching work I do. To ensure that the people who trust me with their most painful experiences are not being inadvertently harmed by my blind spots or limitations.
I also continue to pursue ongoing education and training in estrangement, trauma, and relational dynamics because this field is evolving and the people I serve deserve a guide who is still learning.
READY WHEN YOU ARE
If something on this page resonated - if you felt seen or challenged or both - I'd love to talk.
From Both Sides of Estrangement
Kreed’s personal journey as both a daughter and a mother gives her a unique perspective to guide others through healing, understanding, and reconnection.
I’ve Walked This Path As A Daughter
My estrangement experiences began for me as a daughter, separated three different times from my mother. I’ve felt the tremendous pain, longing, and confusion that come with a deep wound of never feeling seen or truly heard. This experience shaped my understanding of what it truly takes to navigate the emotional barriers that keep us apart.
I’ve Felt the Heartbreak As A Mother
Later in life, I experienced estrangement again - this time from my own daughters. This was an entirely different kind of pain - one filled with shame, anger, feelings of abandonment and deep rejection. I know firsthand what it's like to carry the weight of wanting to fix the relationship and reconnect while also feeling significant loss.
My Journey Led Me to This Work
These two perspectives, as both an adult child and a mother, gave me a unique understanding of estrangement. They fueled my passion to study and develop the skills to help others. Now, I combine my lived experiences with professional expertise to guide families through the complexities of estrangement.
Working with Kreed has been life-changing in my estrangement and reconciliation journey. I discovered her through The Estranged Heart podcast during one of the darkest times in my life. Her words felt like a life raft in a sea of despair, offering hope when I needed it most.
I began one-on-one coaching with her and later joined her support groups. The tools I’ve learned from her have been invaluable and feel like a compass guiding me through the difficult and often uncertain terrain of this journey. Kreed has a straightforward yet compassionate way of shedding light on the things I couldn’t see, including the choices I was making that were holding me back.
Through it all, I have never felt judged or dismissed, only deeply understood in my imperfect humanness. Through Kreed’s guidance, I have been able to connect with my courage and curiosity when reconnecting with my formerly estranged child, and today, we are reconciled and have made tremendous progress in our relationship. I truly don’t think we would be where we are today if I hadn’t taken that first step and asked for her help.
My life has changed so much since working with her. She has given me the strength to face hard truths and move forward with clarity and hope. I will always be grateful.
- Jessie.
Private Client: Reconciled MoM
"I would NOT be where I am today without the support, encouragement and guidance which I have received from Kreed"
The 1st year that I was estranged from my adult son was filled with pain, shame, anger, confusion and an overwhelming feeling of being alone. It was one of the darkest times of my life.
I came to the realization that I could not figure out or fix this relationship on my own - everything that I had tried: reaching out, gifts, family therapy did not bring my son back into relationship with me. Some of what I tried even made things worse. My son kept saying "You're not ready" and "I need to time to heal". I did not understand at all what he meant by these statements.
Not until I found the Estranged Heart Podcast, over a year later, did my thinking about estrangement shift. After bingeing on episode after episode, I didn't feel so alone and became brave enough to reach out to Kreed.
Kreed gave me many options to work with her and I decided to enter into individual coaching. She has been an unwavering source of support, encouragement and guidance on this journey called Estrangement.
With Kreed's guidance I no longer see myself as a victim. I learned to give my son the gift of space and patience. I decided to immerse myself in my own healing and through the process learned better communication skills, wrote a genuine and heartfelt Amends letter to my son, learned to be a consultant instead of a manager in all of my relationships, and importantly to pause, breathe and reflect before taking action.
This journey is slow and arduous, but I'm happy to share that I'm now reconciled with my son and have been for over a year.
It's now been 3 and a 1/2 years since this journey began and I am NOT the same person that I was. I have grown in many ways and am now more open and curious than in the past.
I know that I continue to need support through the reconciliation process as being reconciled has it's own challenges. Mostly, I don't want to fall back into old habits with my son. I therefore attend the Reconciled Mother's Group which Kreed offers, thankfully. My journey is NOT over and more than likely, never will be.
- Sue.M
Private Client and Group Coaching: Reconciled MoM
I have had the very good fortune of working individually with Kreed over the past few months. I sought out a specialist in estrangement, as I was experiencing this with my mother at the time.
I wanted someone who specialized in the subtlety and complexity of working through reestablishing healthy boundaries, as an adult child, with a parent. I'm so grateful that I found Kreed. Over the course of 10 sessions, she consistently provided me with a safe and supportive space where I could talk through all of my thoughts and feelings about the relationship and how I was seeking to have it be transformed.
I've experienced the power of “no contact” as a tool to reestablish a healthy dynamic between parent and child. One of the most helpful insights for me working with Kreed was the consistent reinforcement of prioritizing my own self-care in as a loving and respectful means to show up in relationship.
I also recognized self trust as an essential ingredient to continue progressing on my journey. I would highly recommend Kreed to any potential clients. You will find each session valuable and helpful.
Private Client: Reconciled Adult Child, Mental Health Professional
"I discovered Kreed's Facebook group when I was in tremendous pain and stress over some of my kids not speaking to me. I had tried other online support groups but was disillusioned by the anger and vitriol on those groups. It just made me feel worse.
At first, Kreed's group threw me off and I couldn't relate to this new outlook of trying to look inside of me to understand better what had happened and what I could do to fix myself. But with time, this method grew on me and I began to understand and accept it. After a year of listening to Kreed's podcasts, I finally decided to hire her for coaching.
We went through two rounds of coaching. Kreed helped me take an in-depth look at my own upbringing, which brought to light some interesting discoveries about my parents, and gave me so much insight into why I react in some of the ways I do. She helped me over and over to see my situation with my kids differently; to pause and reflect and get curious instead of reacting; to put myself in their shoes (as best I could); to have grace and forgiveness in my heart for them and for myself.
Kreed is a very understanding, gentle, and caring coach, who has been through the same things her clients have been through, so she really gets it in a very deep way. She even had a session with my husband and brought him fully on board with parts of estrangement that he couldn't understand.
After 9 months, I knew that I was ready to gently bid Kreed goodbye when I didn't have anything further to talk about in our sessions! I've learned a tremendous amount and am truly a different mother to those of my kids who never estranged, to my two formerly estranged sons, and even to my one remaining estranged son. I understand the dynamics of estrangement so much more fully now and I am stronger, more empathetic, and more curious than I've ever been in my life.
Kreed's guidance and advice has even helped strengthen my personal relationships with my husband and friends.
If you are still on the fence, climb down and sign up with Kreed today! She has been a Godsend!
- Davii.M
Private Client: Reconciled Parent