Kreed RevereTherapy and self-reflection don't necessarily erase old relational pathways. A person can understand their childhood, develop compassion for a parent and become significantly more emotionally regulated—and still become activated.
Kreed RevereRelationships accumulate history, and history accumulates meaning. When the same kind of hard conversation happens over and over, across years, it stops being a series of isolated moments. It becomes a pattern.
Kreed RevereIf shame worked, estrangement wouldn't exist. In order to repair, you need curiosity, which is slower than shame. It's also the only one of the two that's ever actually worked.
Kreed RevereAdvice says: I already know what this means and what you should do. Curiosity says: help me understand what this is like for you.
