Kreed RevereAs The Estranged Heart approaches the end of its fifth year, I've been reflecting on how my understanding of my own history has changed. The October 18 episode, A Different View, Part Two, considers the family expectations.
Kreed RevereTherapy and self-reflection don't necessarily erase old relational pathways. A person can understand their childhood, develop compassion for a parent and become significantly more emotionally regulated—and still become activated.
Kreed RevereIf shame worked, estrangement wouldn't exist. In order to repair, you need curiosity, which is slower than shame. It's also the only one of the two that's ever actually worked.
Kreed RevereFinding the right words isn't finding the perfect sentence. It's noticing the moment your body reaches for one, and getting curious about it instead of either grabbing for it or shaming yourself for wanting it.
